Give your Toddlers What They Need the Most

There are many working women who often feel disappointed and dissatisfied with their state when after motherhood they have to quit their lucrative jobs.

Well, this is fair enough. It is very normal for any professional woman to feel frustrated at times for having given up their job and to lead a more restricted life.  Some ladies quit jobs giving more priority to personal child care while others opt for individual career needs and satisfaction derived there from.

I am not writing this article to pass any judgement as to what is right and what is wrong. It’s always ones personal choice of how they handle situations in life.

This blog is about my experience and my feeling which I believe will resonate with many.

I was a working professional before I got into the bracket of ‘motherhood’. Motherhood is tiring and exhausting job but at the same time the return we get is incomparable to any other benefits. The small moments spent with the little ones are treasure saved for the life time.

Their smiles, their contagious laughter at silly things, their initial walking trials, their first spoken words, their kisses and hugs, their touch and warmth and countless other moments enrich our life experience.

I enjoyed every moment spent with my growing toddler. But then there were moments when I missed my previous working life.

There were moments when I felt low for having given up my career that kept me invigorated. But believe me, all those mothers of young growing toddlers who feel the same I would like tell them that this sacrifice or compromise is sometimes really worth it.

I am telling this from my personal experience. Recently a very good friend of mine who is also a doctor related an experience of a patient that moved me completely.

There was this couple who enjoyed a very good life. They both were at very high profile jobs. Everything was just perfect. They were blessed with a healthy baby boy that further filled their life with joy and happiness.

But this did not last for long.

The woman of the house resumed her job soon after few months of her delivery.

But before that the new parents struggled a bit to find a suitable baby care service for their child. Fortunately they managed to arrange a good and reliable baby-sitting.

Now just as they got back to their normal working life routine something was not going well. As the toddler was growing his attitude was becoming little disturbing. He was getting over possessive about his mother. He wanted his mother to be with him all the time.

Whenever the lady left for her office, the kid got cranky. When she was back at home, he wanted all her attention. He insisted that she should talk or spend time only with him and with nobody else not even his father. He was not ready to share her with anybody.

Days passed by. He started going to school. The situation started getting worse. Now this boy became even more sensitive and moody.

Whenever parents returned home from work, the mother being a concerned parent looked into his school work and made sure he was not missing out anything. But she failed to gauge what her child was actually missing. 

Over a period of time he started detesting her mother. He said he hated her. She became cause of his anger and bad mood.

His attitude towards her became so harsh that it started disturbing her. The parents consulted doctors. They suggested them to give him company. He needed time and attention. So the parent called upon the grandparents to stay with the kid. But even their presence did no better for him.

The couple were really upset over the kid’s behaviour. Finally, the mother decided to quit job and handle him herself. It was not an easy decision but it had to be taken in order to set the other thing right in life which of course was more important.

She now spent quality time with her kid. She looked not only into his studies and school activities but also engaged him completely in fun activities and activities that he enjoyed the most.

Slowly and gradually she noticed a positive change in his behaviour. He began to behave normally with her. His mood swings and bouts of anger gradually turned into cheerfulness and positive energies.

Now she is happy that her child is showing good signs of a healthy behaviour which was lacking earlier. She might take up her career again later in life but right now her time, her presence and attention helped her kid from turning into a complex and unmanageable personality.

Kids have a very sensitive mind. You never know when and what can affect them adversely. Once the foundation goes wrong then it could lead to several irreparable complexities in future.

I would just like to say that this might not be the case of every child but it could be true in some cases where a child needs extra care and attention, lots of appreciation and love from his parents.

When we decide to bring a new being into our lives then we must be responsible enough to give that new life a healthy and quality environment which it deserves. Good amount of care, understanding and love can truly help nurture a young mind into a beautiful being and the lack of same can ruin it.