Inter-Religion Marriages ...Rightly Prioritize Your Choices

Inter religion Marriages In India Still A Taboo

Before I give my opinion on the topic I would like to talk about something which is definitely related to the theme, ‘Inter-religion marriages’.  It is about all the various factors that influence in shaping an individual’s personality. It includes parent’s outlook, social environment and culture, education etc. A complete personality is a culmination of all these factors including of course individual in born traits. I believe that everything around us contributes something to our essence in a way…

Inter-religion marriage… well, a tough choice as per my opinion. Easier said than done.  Love is a beautiful feeling but as per the popular saying it’s easier to fall in love but difficult to keep it alive. I have seen many such inter-religion marriages where couples continue to live together but with several compromises and adjustments. And this adjustment comes more undoubtedly from the girl’s side.

I am not against love marriages. But somehow I cannot give in to this type of a marriage. Love knows no boundaries for sure and when in love your beloved means world to you. I understand all this but all I want to say is that before you go for a lifetime commitment, make sure you love that individual more than yourself because you will have to contribute a lot to maintain the equilibrium required for harmonious relation.

In India specially where religion and cultures are so diverse and vibrant , it’s not easy to give up ones culture and adopt some other. Here I am talking about those people who are born and brought up in a particular culture and are closely associated with it.  A child who grows up in a particular type of culture and environment and cherishes the same… it becomes a part of his personality.Now, if a marriage demands to change that part of your personality is it really easy ? As far as I am concerned it’s just not possible. I love myself, my individuality

So, now the next question arises if your spouse is pretty comfortable accepting you with that tinge of difference then what about the families, parents. Practically it’s not easy for any parent( in India at least, till now ) to happily accept the fact that the new member of their family belongs to different faith and also to accept all the associated differences that comes with it. You can easily say you cannot make everyone happy at the same time, so choose your priority and let the other part of  you compromise a little. 

There have been many cases where the problem arose once the married couple started living in with the family. The pressure of maintaining the right balance between the two diverse faiths becomes really difficult. But then again this situation arises if you wish to stay with your family and remain closely connected with them. For all those who want to avoid unnecessary interference from parents always have the option to go for separate settlement and preferably at fair distance.

Marriage in itself is a bond that demands some changes, some adjustments so as to develop a harmonious relation. It takes a lot to make a relationship successful. So, I would rather prefer not to complicate situation by going for inter-religion marriage. The existing and unavoidable differences arising out of different regions, different family backgrounds, different-nature people in itself are too many factors to cope with then why to add another one.

But that’s my take on inter-religion marriage. Once in love  it’s difficult to analyse a relationship from all aspects. The partner becomes the ultimate source of happiness. One should go ahead and make his/her dream come true but also keep in mind that this step has the power to beautify your life or ruin it. So, learn to be liberal, be liberal enough to give space and maintain your space. Let not the differences that come from your very own personality and family hinder your relationship. 

Finally, I would like to end by saying that truly marriages are made in heaven but its we who make it work...